We humans have this universal desire to find answers and explanations. We want things to be logical, make sense, and feel fair. That rarely happens with grief. We want to reason away the pain and make it make sense. We do it a lot in grief, and in our responses to others’ grief. … More Sometimes There Are no Answers
As we navigate this emotional journey of grief and honour the memory of our precious twins, it becomes clear that while their physical presence may be absent, their spirits remain ever close to our hearts, offering us hope and reassurance. … More The First Birthday We Carry in our Hearts
As part of the paradox of grief, the way we choose to move through grief can harden our hearts or it can soften them; it can make us more receptive to God and to neighbor, or it can make us put up walls, keeping others out. In isolation, we often choose things that lead us into more distress or trouble. … More Verses for the Brokenhearted
Several years ago, when we had only been married about two and half years, I was really struggling with idea of a new year – another new year with no living baby, but three little saints. With each gathering, I couldn’t help but think of the little ones who were missing. … More A New Year’s Kiss
Often, what we may experience in that moment as anger or sadness is actually the God-given recognition of something beautiful—a good desire from God that has been overshadowed by loss. … More Dear Friend of Child Loss, A Note for your Heart as we Enter a New Year
The glory is that God used my brokenness and suffering to lead me to freedom. I was desperate for God to save my son, but instead God saved me. … More On the Twelfth Day of Christmas
As I have grown in faith, and in grief, I have come to realize that part of taking up one’s cross is acknowledging its heaviness in your own life. … More Comparison: The Thief of Grief
Without much support, where do fathers of child loss turn? After all, fathers are supposed to be the strong ones, or so they say. The one whose shoulder his wife cries upon. The one who seems unfazed by suffering as he hides his pain from others because few will understand. … More Forgotten Fathers of Child Loss
How can I bear it? This is the question all of us who have suffered miscarriage ask. It courses through our veins and screams in our hearts and begs for an answer. As my friend carried her tiny son to his burial place, I asked the Lord again in my heart. … More How Do You Bear It?
At the time those miscarriages happened people just didn’t talk about them. It was sad, but you were expected to get over it. Even my older siblings didn’t talk about them. So, it took me another thirty plus years to process it to the point where I would occasionally include them in my prayers. … More My Name is Patrick